There
Is More To Sweden Than Meets The Eye… Different
Countries-Different Customs
(Sweden by Design, Summer 2002)
How many times have you been to another country and
found that the service did not measure up to your standards?
Well, you are not alone. Most people, who have traveled
internationally, have had such an experience. In the
U.S. a pleasant demeanor including a smile and prompt
service is expected. When these expectations are not
met, it is easy to make a negative judgment. We usually
don't consider that good service can look different
from someone else's perspective.
Sweden
has been called the most Americanized country in Europe,
and many Swedes believe that they "know all about" the
United States. After all, many grew up with CNN, American
TV shows, movies and music¾and of course¾Mc Donald's
and Pizza Hut. And many Americans, after encountering
one Swede after the other who speaks excellent English,
often assume that the Swedes are just like Americans!
Consequently, both Swedes and Americans are likely to
believe that they have similar expectations. But, as
you will see, assumptions can be deceiving and being
able to communicate in the same language does not guarantee
understanding.
If
we look at what is expected in a restaurant in the U.S.,
it would probably look something like this. You are
seated quickly by a smiling waiter/waitress, who brings
you ice water and bread and takes your order. After
serving your food, the wait person will be back several
times to see if you need anything or if you would like
some coffee or dessert. Frequently the bill is placed
on your table before you ask for it. You, the customer,
have been given received personal attention throughout
the meal and the service has been quick and efficient.
You finish your meal and can go on to other activities.
After all, Americans are busy people and there is much
to be done.
I recently dined with a group of Swedes in a U.S. restaurant
and we experienced almost exactly the scenario described
above. Everybody should have been happy, right? Well,
not quite.
The
Swedes soon commented on the frequent visits by the
waitress. "Why can't she leave us alone?" they asked.
"It is so disturbing to have her come by all the time."
When the check was placed on the table before we asked
for it, they were getting quite annoyed. "Are they trying
to get us to leave?" they asked. They felt like their
privacy was being disturbed by the constant attention,
and they also felt like they were expected to leave
before they were ready.
What
happened? While Americans, often in a rush to do other
things, like quick and personal attention¾feeling like
they are getting special treatment¾the Swedes tend to
prefer less attention, i.e. fewer interruptions. In
addition, because Swedes do not eat out as frequently
as Americans, a restaurant meal is often a special event,
not something you do in a rush on the way to do something
else. Although not quite the lengthy affair, a meal
so often is in France and other southern European countries,
The Swedes enjoy taking their time sharing a good meal
and interesting conversation. In other words, very prompt
service may not be as important as knowing that you
can stay at your table as long as you like.
As
an intercultural consultant and trainer, I have worked
with a variety of groups in the hospitality industry,
both in Sweden and the U.S. It is rewarding to see that
there is such a desire to learn what the international
visitors expect in order to provide the best possible
service. So on your next trip to Sweden, it is quite
possible that the person serving you will rush to take
care of you with a big smile. But if this doesn't happen,
just take it in stride. After all, the differences make
international travel exciting. Instead of becoming upset
when things don't work exactly the same way as at home,
try to understand why.
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